places, websites, etc to meet nice singles???

I seem to be on a two year dry run. :oops: :oops:

I am looking to meet "nice" single gents.. emphasis on nice (i.e.: employed, mature, sans other girl "friends" etc).

So my questions are:

Where did you and your significant other meet?

Where would you recommend looking (websites, places, etc)?




*Please no snark... I am too sensitive*

Subject: Re: places, websites, etc to meet nice singles???

A woman told me, along this same line, to "put myself out there" and "be confident." I was still perplexed. Sometimes I wake up at 2:30 am and wonder if I should head over to a local bar and see if there's some kind of singles scene there. I go through phases of wanting a lover, wanting a girlfriend, and sometimes wanting both at the same time, so on those instances it's more definitely the first of the three.

Instead I decided to try to go to free receptions and events I find listed online from blogs etc. Seeing who is out there puts it in perspective. The two relationships I;'ve had since I moved to New york, one was at a book event, the other from a Meetup group. My latest fixation I am going to ask out a part-time coworker who's last day is this week.

I have had several friends find very successful matches on okcupid.com

Also, join meetup.com and find groups you are into. Go to events that you are interested in. It's very likely that you will meet a great circle of people with like minded interests.

Subject: plentyoffish.com

plentyoffish.com
that site is a free dating site. if you wouldn't mind doing the online thing. i also second just "getting out there". it works and at least you'll meet some cool people that could turn out to be a good friend or may even introduce you to some possible rlsp candidates.

thanks folks. I appreciate it

...and don't discount Brooklynian, which will have at least on marriage and several hookups (casual to serious) to its credit :-)

I have a friend who recently moved to a new city and is single and looking to meet eligible women and this is the advice I've given him: take a class. Get out there and learn something new and meet some new people. Will it lead to romance? Maybe. But you have to be out there in order to even get a chance. How about a cooking class? ICE has one-off classes. You can learn to make dumplings or to make Thai or tapas. There's also volunteering. Another great way to meet like-minded individuals.

Flexichick wrote: ...and don't discount Brooklynian, which will have at least on marriage and several hookups (casual to serious) to its credit :-)

Yup- me and Daver this Saturday (Halloween!) :cheers:

Yeah, hang out with us Brooklynians. Even if you don't want to date any of us, you might end up liking one of our friends who's at a gathering.

Most of the guys I've dated I met through friends. OpossumKing was the roommate of a friend.

Um, wasn't OKing your boyfriend's roommate, or did I make that up?
I used to think it wasn't a good idea to try events I was interested because I never met anyone at the opera, ballet, galleries etc. Save for a few gays and nice gfs. My latest, however, I met through volunteering.

scarlett wrote: Um, wasn't OKing your boyfriend's roommate, or did I make that up?

Close. He roomed with a guy I had just broken up with.

And I agree with Scarlett on outings. Things where you just watch aren't very interactive and social. Volunteering or going to parties with friends is better.

I second okcupid.com it's where I met my fiancée, both of us were living in brooklyn so plenty of local singles.

In the interest of full disclosure I do work for the site, but my recommendation is entirely personal. Also the site is free so there isn't any risk to signing up.

I met my wife swing dancing after I stopped looking and started doing something I just wanted to do.

BrooklynJack wrote: ...after I stopped looking...

I think that that's the way it usually works...