This white girl needs help asap.

Sure, I had moved to Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, as a white, middle-class woman from the Midwestern suburbs, and sure, I knew I was naïve, but I did not confront the reality of my own neighborhood, or myself, until I was asked, a week ago, to post bail for my neighbor.

Then his friend texted me again. What’s your birth date? he asked. Where were you born?

http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/11/03/what-do-i-owe-my-neighbor/?hp&gwh=D374BAE70FD085F0C82836008D049000#comments

she needs to move, what the hell was she thinking, Hell i know my neighbors for decades I wouldn't do this. unless they are my friends.

future ID thief victim or worse!

if you ever read this are you out of your mind???

people bail out family and very close friends only!!! everyone is lonely in nyc, doesn't mean you should go and be stupid about it.

She needs a good therapist to work through her boundary issues.

good call

http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

normally i wouldn't agree with you folks on this, but since she is white and white people believe in this thing called "therapy" might work.

psychology is a fake science unlike say neuroscience.

This has nothing to do with her being white and everything to do with her being an airhead idiot.

Ooohhh, racial stereotypes and mental health! Chinese people believe mental illness is incredibly shameful. Better to think everyone has a touch of it and everyone benefits from some therapy to varying degrees than shun those with depression.

mental illness LOL. there is no cure for crazy by talking.

I'm sure all those talking help criminals stop being rapist and murders etc.. people can't be cured from talking. its same as magic back in the middle ages.

its nothing more than a placebo.

AW-

One of the most popular interventions with criminals is known as Moral Reconation Therapy. It has been studied extensively, and shown to have some effect on recidivism:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&tbo=d&site=&source=hp&q=effect+of+mrt+on+recidivism&oq=effect+of+mrt+on+recidivism&gs_l=mobile-gws-hp.3...3699.32686.0.33847.28.26.0.2.2.0.534.3288.4j8j4-3j1.16.0.les;..0.0...1ac.1.UOeyiWw-Ucc

sure in a scifi world it works, reality is most folks are repeat offenders.

i been a victim of this talk back in school. told the school folks of the racial beatings, being one of the only asian kid is school isn't cool.

they had us do a meditation. i got worse beatings from from the same group of kids.

after that it worked cause guys like me didn't bother to tell the schools any more cause they don't do jack but wanted us to talk out the problem, i didn't have a problem, the other kids had problems.

it worked for them cause schools think now they are reformed. talking is cheap action is better.

I found some of the kids alone in the hood a few times, i got my revenge and it felt great. kids are cowards without their friends around.

kids didn't bother me for a few days, and they forgot their lessons. soon afterwards they were after me again.

life is raw on the bottom. above the bottom. you could use fancy lawyers or therapy to deal with problems.

on the bottom people only understand actions.

think about disputes, normal folks would sue each other. on the bottom you beat or kill the other guys.

I wear glasses cause i nearly went blind from a chain in childhood.

There has always been a need for prisons, and probably always will be....

I think you are expecting therapy to be a magic wand, or a substitute for exclusion and punishment. It isn't.

If you've ever been suicidal due to clinical depression you'd know that mental illness is real. Mental illnesses are often a chemical imbalance in the brain, often caused by an emotional, physical or other trauma. Pharmaceuticals can help address the chemical imbalance, but talk therapy with a trained psychologist can help address the emotional traumas that caused or are caused by the chemical imbalance.

I don't understand how acupuncture works, but I have seen enough people helped by it to know that it works. I am not a scientist, doctor,therapist or acupuncturist, so I have to rely on what experts in these fields say. There is a large body of reputable professionals, whose judgment I trust, that give credence to western medicine, pshychology and acupuncture, as well as a range of other complementary therapies.

I have much more scepticism about fields such as iridology and phrenology, but am prepared to keep an open mind in case some peer reviewed research shows they can actually fulfill their practitioners' claims.

AW, you seem to be using the same arguments as Tom Cruise, who parrots what the Church of Scientology tells him. I'd rather listen to reputable medical professionals.

When it comes to emotional well being, I think it is also important to realize that different things work for different people.

Therapy with a LCSW or a psychologist may work for some.

Yoga may work for others

Vacations

Acupuncture

Religion or lack of religion

AA/NA

The company of a pet

Friends

medications

etc

...people find seem to find thier own unique combinations of the above.

AW,

With all the troubles around us, why do you fixate on something like this? It makes you look as if you have "issues" as well. Perhaps complaining about the gas crisis/shoprtage/whatever might be more productive in terms of personal mental well-being.

Meh, I don't think anyone is fixating on anything. It's the internets, people talk about anything and everything. Some people use it to pass the time.

lol my issues are with crime mostly. plus posting is serious business. it kills time. its part of my internet life.

I learn to cope with on the internet along time ago. I been posting on message boards and forums for many decades now. Beats any therapist or anything else for killing time.

people say in my real life, say I waste time, i say it kills time . I grew up with the net mostly. Alot of my nerd friends are meet though the internet before it became available to the masses. lol look at the huge post count even though i haven't been really posting in a while.

@# i am apparently still banned for saying darwin takes another one LOL. even though stupid site has tons of racist and other things. yet a comment about a kid doing something stupid got me a life banned.

Also back to the topic at hand that girl needs help, I hope she reads this.

AW-

She sounds as if she is slowly growing up.

I don't know. She doesn't write if she gave those idiots her birth day and other info(she is the idiot). I hope she stop talking to them. God she should update that post LOL.

she should post here or update that post for sure. cause i want to know!!!

I suspect you just want to ask her out.

lol don't you say that about every girl?

As a result of merely having a problem saying "No", this woman is many guys' dream date.

I wonder how many offers she has gotten since the article was published.

she would be a low life's cash cow.

Do you think her inability to say no extends to work?

I.E. Is she always the person who the boss picks for undesirable tasks, because the boss knows she will never say no?

I also moved to Crown Heights/Bed Stuy as a white, middle class, suburban woman, I'm just not an effing moron.

1. This is NYC - who talks to your neighbors?

2. Who walks into a random house party?

I mean, really gf, get a grip on reality.

1. This is NYC - who talks to your neighbors?

I take exception to this. While only from Upper Manhattan and not the current Crown Heights area I talk to a LOT of my neighbors. The relationships such as they are, have grown over time though. I would never just come on over to someone who yelled out at me from his doorway.

I think you'll find that in NY, especially Brooklyn the best neighbors are those that talk to each other. If you don't, don't expect anyone to ever stand up for you and good luck every building a sense of community. That has nothing to do with not getting suckered into posting bail. There is also a big difference between talking to neighbors and inviting them to perform at your sister's house party. Or anything else she does.

I bet you the girl is probably writing a book . that is my first guess as a professional message board Attention Whore.