People desperate for seats on a train

MeredithB wrote: Good and as she should.

That no one asked that women to get pregnant, she shouldn't be rewarded for having a child. And if she has to work while 6+ months pregnant, perhaps she shouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place.

It's not about being rewarded. As I mentioned before, its common courtesy, politeness, good manners, and simply human decency, to offer seats to people who are elderly, on crutches, disabled, etc. Since FMLA laws consider pregnancy to be a short term disability, I would put pregnancy in that same category.

And your other comment, while it doesn't justify a response, will get one from me. Many women enjoy their jobs and get a sense of fulfillment from them, in addition to needing the income they provide. To have to choose between raising a family and having a career, especially in this economy, is no choice indeed.

Hear, hear, Snazzy!

And, Hitokiri, the conversation veered into the topic of "manners" not "sexism" - why men on subways don't offer their seats to pregnant women.

snazzybangs wrote: I would like to add to this thread that the most frequent offenders who "pretend" to sleep while a pregnant woman stands in front of them seem to be males.

You're being racist to males. :roll:

danielle123 wrote: Hear, hear, Snazzy!

And, Hitokiri, the conversation veered into the topic of "manners" not "sexism" - why men on subways don't offer their seats to pregnant women.

manners is sexist!

;p


seriously though, I just looked at a women who was petite, but sat in between the chairs on the train....thus taking up 2 seats. WTF

I hate that about NYC-no respect. In LA men got out of their seats for me to sit. In NYC. I am the one giving my seat to an old or pregnant or disabled person.

And why is it that when I am standing at the front to get in, people want to jump in front of me. Rude!

a few years ago I had knee surgery and was on crutches and wore a big ass brace.

i had to tap people's feet with the crutch to get them to get out of a seat.

if you're preggers and need to sit down, grow a pair and ask somebody.
if asking doesn't work tell them to get up

Brooklynbound wrote: I hate that about NYC-no respect. In LA men got out of their seats for me to sit. In NYC. I am the one giving my seat to an old or pregnant or disabled person.

And why is it that when I am standing at the front to get in, people want to jump in front of me. Rude!

What L.A. subways could you possibly be talking about?

Subways and buses! http://www.metro.net/riding_metro/red_line.htm

Brooklynbound wrote: Subways and buses! http://www.metro.net/riding_metro/red_line.htm

That's a crappy subway. :P

I will take a person down to get a seat (even preggos) if I am tired

ok, i'm kidding.....

I offer my seat to anybody who looks like they really need one - pregnant, old, crutches, etc. It's very rare that I see men do this. Most of my friends who have had kids say it's almost always the women who offer up their seats.

I think it just has to do with a general lack of manners (ever ride the train when kids get out of school?).....

Anastasia Beaverhausen wrote: [quote=Brooklynbound]Subways and buses! http://www.metro.net/riding_metro/red_line.htm

That's a crappy subway. :P
Crappy but polite. LOL.

Flexichick wrote: (ever ride the train when kids get out of school?).....

I made the mistake of taking the uptown 6 at about 3 PM. There's a school at 3 Park Ave. I swear to God, my breasts were pushed inside my body.

vidro3 wrote: a few years ago I had knee surgery and was on crutches and wore a big ass brace.

i had to tap people's feet with the crutch to get them to get out of a seat.

if you're preggers and need to sit down, grow a pair and ask somebody.
if asking doesn't work tell them to get up

So when you say "big ass brace" did you mean "big-ass brace" or did you really have a brace on your big ass? ;-)


So I just got off the B61 (the worst!) and there was a 13-year-old kid (male) with the one unoccupied seat on the bus next to him (window seat). I asked him if I could sit down and he ignored me and kept talking on his phone. I had to nudge him twice on the arm before he finally stopped his conversation long enough for me to say, "Can I sit, please?" He said, "My stuff's on the seat." (No shit, Sherlock.)

I asked a couple more times for him to move his bag (Trader Joe's plastic bag with maybe 3 things in it). He said, "No, I'm not going to put my groceries on the floor." (As if the plastic bag touching the floor was somehow going to contaminate his precious cheetos.)

An older Italian man tapped him on the arm twice and asked him to move over. He repeated that he didn't want to put his groceries on the floor. When I was getting off the bus I told an MTA employee (sitting in the handicapped seats, no less) and she acted pissed at the kid and then went back to putting numbers on a sheet.

(And the MTA is raising our fares.)

possible good outcome: maybe the kid won't be afford to get on.

Were you scared of him? No doubt I would have been sitting down.

Brooklynbound wrote: Subways and buses! http://www.metro.net/riding_metro/red_line.htm

In honor of Crocodile Dundee....

Thats not a subway....THIS is a subway

http://mta.info/nyct/maps/submap.htm