Am I invisible?

trixieNYC wrote: (note to reader: someone = chick, TrixieNYC = chick)

wait a minute... you're gay? (ha. ha ha ha. bwah ha ha ha)

trixieNYC wrote: speaking only from past experience since I'm a far cry from single, I can say this....when I was looking to meet someone, I came up gooseegg. and I had thee most miserable night. and I looked hot too (might I add, thank you) On nights that I'd go out, not looking to meet anyone, not looking my absolutely fabulous self but in my opinion QUITE the opposite, THEN, then I would meet someone (note to reader: someone = chick, TrixieNYC = chick)
I think this applies to ANYONE single out there, gay/straight/male/female. I think there's a certain desperation "scent" we let out, it's not attractive and it's mighty frightening.
At the same time, being single, on the flipside, some male/females are shy or scared of the approach. Heck, when I finally stopped going out "just to meet someone" I'd send girls drinks, no problem. I'm a far cry from being shy. Or, I'd strike up conversation with a woman (who, 9 outta 10 times wound up being a straight girl in a lesbian bar which MIGHT I ADD is NOT very fair of you ladies...lol) anyway, back to point. I'd have great conversation. it was a night out, and I met a nice person. and I had a good time.
go out, have fun, don't have expectations THEN you'll meet someone.
I have the feeling I'm gonna get yelled at next but, heck, dems my 2 cents.
just go meet people. you never know, that straight girl I spent the whole night chatting up, had I gotten her number and made friends with her, hung out, etc, one day maybe I would have met one of her friends (or her hot lesbian twin sister) and we'd have ourselves a match.

Does that mean you lesbos should get out of our straight bars? (loves ya, Trix).

You summed up my philosphy pretty spot on.

The dialog in my head does not go "oooh. I hope he likes me" it goes "of course he likes me! What's not to like?"

Flexichick wrote:
The dialog in my head does not go "oooh. I hope he likes me" it goes "of course he likes me! What's not to like?"

and mine is like, "hey, cutie buying annie's mac and cheese, turn around! cool woman behind you!"

Flexichick wrote:

Does that mean you lesbos should get out of our straight bars? (loves ya, Trix).

:

nope, y'all just need to wear name tags or somethin'! we just need to develop some kind of system. hard enough trying to figure out "is she a lesbian or she hetero?" outSIDE of the bar scene....inSIDE the bar scene it's kinda like "ok, she's in here, she's one of us"
nu. UH.
but that's ok. Trixie is all about equal opportunity employment.

now let me let y'all get back to your regularly scheduled programming....
"am in invisible"....discuss

trixieNYC wrote: [quote=Flexichick]

Does that mean you lesbos should get out of our straight bars? (loves ya, Trix).

:

nope, y'all just need to wear name tags or somethin'! we just need to develop some kind of system. hard enough trying to figure out "is she a lesbian or she hetero?" outSIDE of the bar scene....inSIDE the bar scene it's kinda like "ok, she's in here, she's one of us"
nu. UH.
but that's ok. Trixie is all about equal opportunity employment.

now let me let y'all get back to your regularly scheduled programming....
"am in invisible"....discuss

again, my gaydar: if i find you attractive and want to date you, you're gay.

brooklynpotter wrote: [quote=Flexichick]
The dialog in my head does not go "oooh. I hope he likes me" it goes "of course he likes me! What's not to like?"

and mine is like, "hey, cutie buying annie's mac and cheese, turn around! cool woman behind you!"


You don't say anything?

Me: "oooh. Annie's mac-n-cheese. I've been wanting to try that. Is it good?"
Him: "pretty good"
Me: "is it hard to make? I'm not exactly a whiz in the kitchen"
Him: "Can you boil water?"


And on it goes until he's cooking me that mac-n-cheese just wearing an apron in my kitchen

The end.

brooklynpotter wrote:
again, my gaydar: if i find you attractive and want to date you, you're gay.

LOL, see, its the exact opposite for us!!!!

Flexichick wrote: [quote=brooklynpotter][quote=Flexichick]
The dialog in my head does not go "oooh. I hope he likes me" it goes "of course he likes me! What's not to like?"

and mine is like, "hey, cutie buying annie's mac and cheese, turn around! cool woman behind you!"


You don't say anything?

Me: "oooh. Annie's mac-n-cheese. I've been wanting to try that. Is it good?"
Him: "pretty good"
Me: "is it hard to make? I'm not exactly a whiz in the kitchen"
Him: "Can you boil water?"


And on it goes until he's cooking me that mac-n-cheese just wearing an apron in my kitchen

The end.

but aha, i do that! and i always end up buying the mac and cheese and eating it by myself.

i am convinced you give off some sort of "date me, love me" scent.

After reading this I feel a lot better… I haven’t had a real date in months; I’ve just been recycling the exes to pass the time. I never meet any guys that I would seriously date in PS or PH… and I consider myself an equal opportunity dater. But it’s just the construction worker with gold fronts on Bergen who yells out the 2nd floor window at me… just doesn’t do it for me… :roll:

I’ve been thinking that I need to go on a blind date…. or I dunno maybe internet dating??? I never have been on a blind date though… I might want to try that so…
if you know anyone with lots of tattoos, laughs at anything and actually dates girls… than hook me up!!

i had a blind date last night. nice guy, no connection. (no tatts, sorry)

i hate blind dates. been on like 200 of them, easy. i stopped counting at 100. (ok, before you say anything snarky i've been dating for 25 years, so really that's not all that many. averages like 8 a year)

jaha127 wrote: I’ve been thinking that I need to go on a blind date…. or I dunno maybe internet dating??? I never have been on a blind date though… I might want to try that so…
if you know anyone with lots of tattoos, laughs at anything and actually dates girls… than hook me up!!

Go for it. Try it all. Use some common sense if you do internet (or regular, for that matter) dating - meet in a public place, tell somebody where you're going, etc. I recommend NOT spending eons talking/emailing with somebody. If you think you like them, set up a meeting ASAP. I know too many people who "fall in love" with somebody they've never met only to meet up in person and realize there's no chemistry (or worse, there's been some deception).

Subject: Invisable

I think sexylegs (the orginal poster) has become invisable again!

Is that you, Shane?

jaha127 wrote: After reading this I feel a lot better… I haven’t had a real date in months; I’ve just been recycling the exes to pass the time. I never meet any guys that I would seriously date in PS or PH… and I consider myself an equal opportunity dater. But it’s just the construction worker with gold fronts on Bergen who yells out the 2nd floor window at me… just doesn’t do it for me… :roll:

darlings, it just hit me. just tell them your a lesbian. :twisted:
you'll have a line outside your door and will need to borrow that "please take a number" machine from the local butcher shop.

kidding.

recycling exes works for booty call (girls, it works both ways, a girl CAN call a guy for some booty too, y'all got needs and surely doesn't make you desperate) just don't let emotions get in the mix.

but yes, for something more serious, fuck it, sure, why not, try internet dating? can't say whether or not I'd do it, and when I was single it wasn't an option...shit, when I was first coming out and was super closeted, I hit the Village Voice personals (met a REAL nutjob)...guess that's the same thing in a sense?
and I basically will just say ditto to what Flex said, sorry I cant add more right now, on my way out

I know the hardest thing is not getting too emotional....

When I get a chance I will try the internet dating thing... just making a profile feels like it take forever...

Um, I do the Internet dating thing, mainly because I'm not sure how else to meet people here. I think Internet dating is common enough now that you're going to find the same kind of people online as you would in any other way. I've met a couple of weirdos, a couple of great people, and a lot of folks in between, who are nice enough but with whom I wasn't really all that compatible.

For what it's worth, I'd recommend Nerve and OkCupid, and I would *not* recommend Craigslist. I refuse to try eHarmony because it's owned by a guy who's affiliated with the extremely homophobic Focus on the Family (or Focus on Yer Own Fucking Family, as I prefer to call them). Their site doesn't allow same-sex matching. And have you noticed in their creepy commercials that they NEVER show an interracial couple?

Haven't really used any others so I don't know how good, say, LavaLife or any others are.

I was just sitting in the park "minding my bidness" this afternoon when a guy who had been sitting near me came over and started chatting for an hour. Not my "type", but people are out there. I meet them almost every day.

Internet dating has it's benefits, but don't get so wrapped up in it that you forget to keep your eyes open for people who cross your path in the real world all the time.

Perusal of this board would seem to suggest that the best strategy is finding oneself a good cheese aisle to stand around in, looking eager for advice.

CHE wrote: Perusal of this board would seem to suggest that the best strategy is finding oneself a good cheese aisle to stand around in, looking eager for advice.

i imagine different parts of the market would yield different types. you'll find flexi at cheese, i'm either over by the berries or in the bread aisle checking the packages for content. i can see trixie near the beer (which at my market is also near the cheese and good bread).

brooklynpotter wrote: [quote=CHE]Perusal of this board would seem to suggest that the best strategy is finding oneself a good cheese aisle to stand around in, looking eager for advice.

i imagine different parts of the market would yield different types. you'll find flexi at cheese, i'm either over by the berries or in the bread aisle checking the packages for content. i can see trixie near the beer (which at my market is also near the cheese and good bread).

GASP!
the horror!!!! :evil:
Princess Trixie does not drink beer. ack!
In this cybersupermarket you have us shopping in, you'd most likely find me checking out the meat/poultry section, since you biatches have the cheese and bread covered. hmmf.

trixieNYC wrote:

GASP!
the horror!!!! :evil:
Princess Trixie does not drink beer. ack!
In this cybersupermarket you have us shopping in, you'd most likely find me checking out the meat/poultry section, since you biatches have the cheese and bread covered. hmmf.

ok! i just wanted to put you near the booze! (and for the record, i was with berries, not cheese)

brooklynpotter wrote: [quote=trixieNYC]

GASP!
the horror!!!! :evil:
Princess Trixie does not drink beer. ack!
In this cybersupermarket you have us shopping in, you'd most likely find me checking out the meat/poultry section, since you biatches have the cheese and bread covered. hmmf.

ok! i just wanted to put you near the booze! (and for the record, i was with berries, not cheese)

well, ok. you saved yourself with that one because clearly one cannot find a respectable bottle of wine in a supermarket, HOWEVER you DID say you were chillin' with the berries OR bread.
But, actually, we're I'd be most likely is by the cute girl giving out samples of some new frozen snack all up in her business with the "how YOU doin'?!"

trixieNYC wrote:
well, ok. you saved yourself with that one because clearly one cannot find a respectable bottle of wine in a supermarket, HOWEVER you DID say you were chillin' with the berries OR bread.
But, actually, we're I'd be most likely is by the cute girl giving out samples of some new frozen snack all up in her business with the "how YOU doin'?!"

at the c-town, where everyone knows i shop, cheese and GOOD bread are all in the same place. unless i was having company or feeling super-skinny or daring, i'd be on the regular bread aisle, counting dietary fiber grams.

i guarantee that's why i find no dates at the market; i'm checking the ingredients lists.

brooklynpotter wrote:
i guarantee that's why i find no dates at the market; i'm checking the ingredients lists.

ahhhhh, young jedi, you meet not dates at market because lack confidence you have mmmmmmhmmmmmm.

That was my Yoda.

Seriously though, you must take it from Flex/Trix, you just gotta be more laid back on the "approach"....see the ball, be the ball.
You gotta learn the Trixie Strut® and the Flexi Flaunt©

Since I just got home from a night where I met not one, but TWO guys who gave me their numbers, I can tell you that you (that's YOU, BP) need to get your nose out of the ingredient list and start making eye contact with a smile. I was just minding my bizness (again) and there they were! Just like that!

Trix has the Strut, and I have the......Flaunt.....or rather, the Flexi Flirt :-)

Che - I will be the one holding the cheese up to her nose and doing the happy dance when I find one that smells really stanky. I did it in Fairway today. If you see me, say "hi"

OK- I'll be standing by the veggie fridge with my face in a bunch of cilantro, nominally trying to make sure it's not some imposter broad-leaf Italian parsley but sniffing it a little longer than identification requires. (Also, I'm small, square, and red.)

Flexi, BP, Trixie...

I just want you guys to know I've been listening to this conversation, and I'm fascinated, truly.

S

Anonymous wrote: Flexi, BP, Trixie...

I just want you guys to know I've been listening to this conversation, and I'm fascinated, truly.

S

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Who are you and why are you fascinated by us (aside from the obvious - our wit, brains, looks, etc.)?

Flexichick wrote: [quote=Anonymous]Flexi, BP, Trixie...

I just want you guys to know I've been listening to this conversation, and I'm fascinated, truly.

S

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Who are you and why are you fascinated by us (aside from the obvious - our wit, brains, looks, etc.)?

T'was me. I guess I wasn't logged in. I'm actually telling some of your dating stories on dates. Not as my own of course. All my dates are fabulous, and I never have trouble meeting the right people. :P