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young -n- modern · January 2009

I have this friend, who really likes this girl, but both of them are terribly shy. He has been thinking about either calling her to chat and break the ice, or texting her to build up a rapport. what does everyone think? also, the girl might be Armenian, if that helps. thanks in advance,
Y n' M.

carmen · January 2009

if this is serious...um yes. Call plz. How would you ever get to know eachother otherwise?

young -n- modern · January 2009

the thing about the call is, she may be too shy to pick up, she'll prolly just send it right to voice mail, then my friend has to leave a rambling, uncomfortable message.

MOD · January 2009

Are you a teenager already??

anastasia beaverhausen · January 2009

I actually think it's kind of sweet. It shows that boys are just as nervous as girls are in this sort of thing. If they're both "texters," I'd suggest that route.

carmen · January 2009

do you have her email address? I think a good icebreaking thing is to randomly "come across" an event you think she might like and forward it to her via email. For example, I'm on about 150 mailing lists (brooklyn based is a good place to start, as is rooftop films) and I periodically see things on there that remind me of friends so I forward...you could find something and say you "ran across it and thought of [her] and wanted to see if [she] was interested in going because you'd like to check it out and you're going to go on [day]"

No pressure, barely even a "date" because it seems like you're going alone anyway. Shy guys are cute.

flux · January 2009

It is my observation that Armenian girls only date Armenian guys. I know 2 Armenian girls that would insist on dating only inside their race. So even if she does say yes to your friend, he will never be taken seriously by her and certainly not her family.

voodoonyc · January 2009

But dude, you're getting more action on this post in 15 minutes than anyone on this board in recent history. Congrats.

lnelson · January 2009

i heard that armenian girls, like their non-armenian counterparts, really like directness. i totally understand about the phone issue and the rambling message. but if you text, don't be all ambigious. ask her to hang out and suggest something specific. do you have a dog you could walk together or something?

ivanna · January 2009

Tell him to give her a set of handcuffs, a ball gag and a buttplug.

fancy · January 2009

A man never has to chase a woman. We know what/who we want and will
(most always) get his attention. If she likes you, just wait, smile at her, and wait and wait.........
Good luck

bebklyn · January 2009

please don't text. at least not unless you have a truly adorable one liner to ask her out. if you really can't deal with the phone yet, email and ask her out.

pitu · January 2009

mod note:
you have now branched out to The Lounge, the place for relationship advice and other idle chat unrelated to your neighborhood

doctorj · January 2009

Invite them both out to coffee and desert, and see what transpires. You say you want to retire after half-an-hour and see what happens. Worst case, they go their separate ways. Best cast, they follow you home for a 3-some.

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