Should Armchair lie to the ladies?

Well, Armchair, it depends on what you want out of the "date". If you are going to one of the many hookup sites for some wham bam, thank you Ma'am, then everyone on those sites expects to be lied to. If you are hoping for a long term relationship, you should not lie, but you might withhold the truth until after meeting said lady. You might also think about how your living arrangement might be presented in its best light. Don't just say "I still live at home" - that makes you sound like a socially stunted nerd. Emphasise that you are caring for your elderly parents.

You might also consider going down the arranged marriage route. I am sure that someone in your extended family knows someone who would be perfect for you.

You might be right when you say no woman is good enough for you, you might also be left.

Hummm how do I express this in a non-rambling way :-k

1st) Culture plays a role. For example, if I was living at home it wouldn't matter one bit. I'm a latina, in my culture we often stay and live with the family to help support them/take care of our elders/run a business/save $ until we buy a home/share large property.. etc.

AW, You take care of your family and their property and help run the family business. When dating, put yourself out there as a trustee to your family's multiple real estates, as a caring son who values family, culture and tradition. It's not like you are some entitled rich kid whose bumming it at home and a drain on society. If it helps don't tell them that you live at home until after the first date.

Good luck, you deserve to find a sweet gal :thumleft:

I had my first girlfriend when I was 13 and she didn't really have breasts. I probably wouldn't have known what to do with them anyway.

AW-

Tell them you are saving up for a place of your own, and a real estate mogul.

To convince them of the latter, you can try to tell them stories your buildings (which I know you basically break even on), OR come your hair over your head, like Donald Trump.

Mamacita said:

AW, You take care of your family and their property and help run the family business. When dating, put yourself out there as a trustee to your family's multiple real estates, as a caring son who values family, culture and tradition. It's not like you are some entitled rich kid whose bumming it at home and a drain on society. If it helps don't tell them that you live at home until after the first date.

Good luck, you deserve to find a sweet gal :thumleft:

^^ This - any girl worth dating you will see this as a good thing. I knew my husband was the man for me when I saw him interact with his mom. Also when you fill out those profiles make sure to add that family is important to you and you are looking for a girl with a good work ethic because you want someone who feels the same way as you.

And finally - any girl who can't see how good you are then I say its their loss.

Let them know all the good stuff about you first! Don't go into it showing all your warts and all (figuratively.) Let her find those out once you get nekkid. There is a time and place for everything. Maybe you are scaring them off by letting it all hang out before it's time, ya know?

(oh this is going to go places.....)

Remember, any gal you meet is a potential first wife. You may need to use the same techniques for a second time. Keep a diary of what worked.

jeffrey said:

What does Meetup.com have in the way of NY-area WoW / Diablo III (or whatever your fragging pleasure) meetups?

Jeffery-

Given the ratio of women to men who are into such things, I suspect that any woman into such things could have their choice of men like Armchair. Given such power, I believe that we would all pick a fabulous, exceptional outlier.

Being that most of the world falls within 2 standard deviations, I suspect AW is not exceptional.

Hence, I believe that we should advise AW to stray outside of his comfort zone and cast a bigger net than he is used to: I.E. He should not seek the ever so attract, ever so elusive woman who is into WoW or Diablo III.

AW, dating is about putting yourself out there, being open minded, and (ultimately) settling for who will spend time with you.

You gotta have reasonable expectations. A first step might be accepting that Victoria Secret Models and Diablo III girls might be equally out of your league.

...they just have too many other choices.

Then again, he could ditch over-thinking it and just go with something solid like this:

In this town, he'd probably get just the sort of responses he's looking for.

That was utterly adorable!