Best spot to meet single straight women?

don't know... i've had plenty of seemingly charming men turn ashen when they hear that i'm 40. then again, i get ashen when i think i'm 40. i SO do not feel 40.

If it makes you feel any better, I would have thought 28,29,30.

Rose wrote: [quote=brooklynpotter]don't know... i've had plenty of seemingly charming men turn ashen when they hear that i'm 40. then again, i get ashen when i think i'm 40. i SO do not feel 40.

I know, it sucks, right? I am about to turn 40 and not sure how this happened.

I am not looking to meet anyone now, thank God, but a couple of years ago I was briefly separated from my husband and looking around a bit to see what was out there, and it was really discouraging. The dating pool of men my age seemed to consist of married men with wives who didn't understand them; recently divorced men oozing bitterness; really damaged men obsessed with their mothers; really picky men with impossible standards, and so on. Though, of course, I had so much baggage myself that anyone nice and normal would have probably stayed away anyway, so who knows.

No one mentioned Barnes & Noble -- I've always thought that would be a good place to try to meet someone.

Hey ladies haven't you heard that 40 is the new 25?

Why dont the single DH'ers create a sign for anyone sitting in the park alone (like a blue hat on the blanket) or a red string around your cooler, etc.) That way you can walk up to the person and say "hey your from DH?" Either that or start a singles only happy hour

Genius.

I think I'll just hide under a rock.

then again, I've already defined myself as wing-mistress - the woman who single-handedly gets the attention of the most busted guy in a bar/party/park/store/street/non-event/event thus letting all the other single ladies work their mojo on non-busted (or not-so-busted) dudes available. this is guaranteed to work in NYC and Miami. not sure how it works in the LBGT community - my skillz have not been tested, though I do make an excellent faux-gf. gay boys - I'm a terrible wing man. sorry.

thank the gods i'm single. most girls i ever meet and become friends are messup . and most girls i know are either jewish or asian (who only date white guys lol) or just nutty girls. anyway staying single is great. one day i'll just buy eggs and goto india and pay some girl to carry my genes.

armchair_warrior wrote: thank the gods i'm single. most girls i ever meet and become friends are messup . and most girls i know are either jewish or asian (who only date white guys lol) or just nutty girls. anyway staying single is great. one day i'll just buy eggs and goto india and pay some girl to carry my genes.

Who knew you were such a romantic? :twisted: :P :twisted:

Carnivore wrote: [quote=armchair_warrior]thank the gods i'm single. most girls i ever meet and become friends are messup . and most girls i know are either jewish or asian (who only date white guys lol) or just nutty girls. anyway staying single is great. one day i'll just buy eggs and goto india and pay some girl to carry my genes.

Who knew you were such a romantic? :twisted: :P :twisted:classic reply would be takes one to know one .

Greetings from Madrid -

Now I am curious as to who hooked up with whom (I've been drinking el vino, so please ignore my grammar mistakes - and this Spanish character keyboard is for shit).

I am going to turn 40 next year and I am cuter than ever! Just ask anyone

When I am "in the mood" to meet people - I can meet them anywhere. Literally anywhere.

However, I am now inflicting my adorable mis-pronunciations on the world at large. A brief pause to give NYC a break


Signed-

Flexichick, who is too lazy to find password to log in.

Anonymous wrote: Greetings from Madrid -

Now I am curious as to who hooked up with whom (I've been drinking el vino, so please ignore my grammar mistakes - and this Spanish character keyboard is for shit).

I am going to turn 40 next year and I am cuter than ever! Just ask anyone

When I am "in the mood" to meet people - I can meet them anywhere. Literally anywhere.

However, I am now inflicting my adorable mis-pronunciations on the world at large. A brief pause to give NYC a break


Signed-

Flexichick, who is too lazy to find password to log in.

this just has to be the most adorable board ever.

steve wrote:

this just has to be the most adorable board ever.

We're so cute I just want to squeeze us

I still don't know if there were any romantic rendezvous(es) in the park! I need a bit of gossip, please


Signed -

La Chica Flexible

Anonymous wrote: [quote=steve]

this just has to be the most adorable board ever.

We're so cute I just want to squeeze us

I still don't know if there were any romantic rendezvous(es) in the park! I need a bit of gossip, please


Signed -

La Chica Flexible

hrmm. I'm thinking that someone needs the life lessons "merlot and email don't mix" statuette ....



just kidding. eat as much jamon serrano as you can and please post all photos of half-naked footballers you meet.

geez, away from my computer for a mere 16 hours and postings galore.

never said i was seeking anonymity.

and lift and cut, thank you. i know this, but i don't go telling people because it makes me sound like one of those men who say they're 50 years young. gross.

and i had no rendezvous, but i was in bryant park... where 10,000 twenty-somethings flirt and drink, and we old fogeys drink wine and make fun of them. good times.

what time do those bryan park showings start? i saw one website that said 5:00 PM, the other said "sunset" or "sundown" i think...

as a single 23 year old male, the prospect of 5,000 20-somethings not of my gender sounds promising, even if the fogeys make fun of me

snooty, movies start at sunset and last night was the first one.

but. lawn opens at 5. there's a mad dash with people and their blankets to get a spot. my friends and i take turns, and we get like 4 blankets down so our friends can join. (personally, i hate the mad dash more than root canal...)

then, we lie on our blankets and drink wine, eat cheese, and nap. i try to flirt with 25-year-olds but they're young enough to be my children, had i been a teenaged mother...

last year, some creepy one actually paid attention to me and then took a picture of my chest. asshole. i grabbed the digital from him and erased it. i should have bopped him in the head, too.

Wait, Men are asking how to meet women in New York? What? Am I in Bizarro world? This is YOUR town for dating is all I hear from my single friends.

If you are looking for one night stands, well, grandma Moses is totally out of touch on that world. But I keep hearing over and over and over--ASK YOUR FRIENDS if they will set you up. That is the best way to find a relationship. Ask your acquaintances that you think are pretty cool if they have any single friends. Everyone in New York knows a few interesting, great, good looking single women that for whatever reason haven't met someone yet.

As for you single women, haven't you heard that it was a pile of crap the myth that once you hit 40 you won't get married? I think New York is definitely harder because you have the career focussed types, the commitment phobe baby-men and gay guys that kind of eat into the male population. But what about taking trips where the odds are more in your favor?? And ask to be set up. Two of my best friends are finally in happy relationships because they sheepishly asked their friends and co-workers to set them up.

kensington mom, are you married? on crack?

i'm 40, female, adorable... can't get arrested in this town. and i'm not the only one.

brooklynpotter wrote: kensington mom, are you married? on crack?

i'm 40, female, adorable... can't get arrested in this town. and i'm not the only one.

I keep reading her post, and then your post, and I can't figure out why you think she's on crack . . . ? :?

alafairnadia wrote: [quote=Anonymous]We're so cute I just want to squeeze us

I still don't know if there were any romantic rendezvous(es) in the park! I need a bit of gossip, please


Signed -

La Chica Flexible

hrmm. I'm thinking that someone needs the life lessons "merlot and email don't mix" statuette ....



just kidding. eat as much jamon serrano as you can and please post all photos of half-naked footballers you meet.

flexi, any stories to share about
spanish soccer boys?

Rose wrote: [quote=brooklynpotter]kensington mom, are you married? on crack?

i'm 40, female, adorable... can't get arrested in this town. and i'm not the only one.

I keep reading her post, and then your post, and I can't figure out why you think she's on crack . . . ? :?

yea. i thought that felt like a red flag when i read it

i don't see the connection to crack in her comments

i thought everyone on this board who post here daily is on crack!

opens at 5? mad dash? bleh, don't these people have jobs? how are the options, at, say, 6:30-7pm?

Wait, Men are asking how to meet women in New York? What? Am I in Bizarro world? This is YOUR town for dating is all I hear from my single friends.

Young women in this town are cold, mom!

snooty, you won't get a place on the lawn if youwait.

as for the crack comment, i meant that facetiously. geez. what i meant was only that someone who a: had someone, or b: was on drugs, would think finding a man in NYC would be easy.

Hi from Spain where it is 4am and I just got home.

Some comments:

1) I don't drink merlot, so no worries about "merlot and email" not mixing. If you say "Cabernet and email". or "beer and email" or a few other things not mixing, we may have a problem.

2) yes, I am close to 40, but (this is for KensingtonMom), I am NOT looking specifically to get married. Seems many married folk and older folk seem to think that this is what all of us single chicks aspire to, and I'm one to say it just ain't so. I don't think marriage is the "ultimate achievement" in life or is anyhing I am striving for. If it happens, fine, if not, equally fine.

3) Did I have a number 3? I can't remember! 

4) Oh, I did have a number 3 (now number 4 for those still reading).....IF I did have stories from Madrid, I wouldn't be sharing them here! I don't kiss and tell :-)

oooh. you must be a blonde
i hear spaniards drool for blondes

brooklynpotter wrote: snooty, you won't get a place on the lawn if youwait.

as for the crack comment, i meant that facetiously. geez. what i meant was only that someone who a: had someone, or b: was on drugs, would think finding a man in NYC would be easy.

I think you misread my post. I think it is easy for MEN to find someone here and I was shocked guys actually need advice where to meet women! But I think it is tough for women and hence I suggested if the asking to be set up only because two good friends of mine both close to forty were set up in the past two years and are planning weddings so I thought maybe that was a good option.

I am married but I have been there listening to my single friends tell their tales and have been a shoulder to cry on after another lousy date. I want to tell these men-child that honestly growing up is not that bad. Being grown up doesn't mean being boring.

I agree with Kensington Mom that it is not terribly hard to meet women here if you are a single guy, but it is time consuming, and that's something. I imagine if I'm still single a few years from now, it may not be so easy though. I'm 34 now...

the original sex and the city book (the one by candice bushnell) is the most DEPRESSING read ever. it's all about these 30something single women who are desperate to find mr. right, and all of the completely fucked up men that they end up meeting instead. unlike the television series, it's not very amusing.

in any case, according to the book, and I'm in partial agreement because I've seen this so frequently, a lot of the guys who a single woman can meet after the age of like 35 in nyc are the most busted, screwed up individuals ever. they're either total peter pan types or complete control freaks. at first I thought this was a manhattan-only issue, but then I met this chef (in an online dating forum) who lives in PS. on our one legendary, marathon-length date he:

1. finished my drinks for me when I would go to the rest room;
2. inisisted he was on atkins while he drank copious amounts of mojitos, and then accused me of causing him to go off of his diet; and
3. told me that I would learn to enjoy rare steak if I dated him (no freakin' way) and that I would really enjoy runny eggs if he cooked them for me (again, no freakin' way).

psycho!

obviously, not every single guy fits this stereotype - I'm sure there are plenty of worthwhile, non-scary guys to date. I just hold no hope of meeting them and have quit trying.

(oh, this entire post is vaguely in response to bits from flexi, k.mom & steve)

I'm lacking time right now Alfairnadia, but don't give up hope! 8)

alafairnadia wrote: the original sex and the city book (the one by candice bushnell) is the most DEPRESSING read ever. it's all about these 30something single women who are desperate to find mr. right, and all of the completely fucked up men that they end up meeting instead. unlike the television series, it's not very amusing.

in any case, according to the book, and I'm in partial agreement because I've seen this so frequently, a lot of the guys who a single woman can meet after the age of like 35 in nyc are the most busted, screwed up individuals ever. they're either total peter pan types or complete control freaks. at first I thought this was a manhattan-only issue, but then I met this chef (in an online dating forum) who lives in PS. on our one legendary, marathon-length date he:

1. finished my drinks for me when I would go to the rest room;
2. inisisted he was on atkins while he drank copious amounts of mojitos, and then accused me of causing him to go off of his diet; and
3. told me that I would learn to enjoy rare steak if I dated him (no freakin' way) and that I would really enjoy runny eggs if he cooked them for me (again, no freakin' way).

psycho!

obviously, not every single guy fits this stereotype - I'm sure there are plenty of worthwhile, non-scary guys to date. I just hold no hope of meeting them and have quit trying.

(oh, this entire post is vaguely in response to bits from flexi, k.mom & steve)

Alfairnadia, you're right, they're all freaks.

kensington, we need to tell them to act like nice people and, as i said above, not act like freaks. it's as though they know there are more of them than use which gives them permission to act as base as they can. because they can do so and still get girlfriends.

and i did read you wrong, because there are TONS of single women in this city, under 30.